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When do I have to pay for a commission?
When you request a Commission offered by an artist you will need to have the appropriate number of deviantART Points available; however, payment will not be deducted from your balance until the artist has accepted the commission request.
When a buyer requests to purchase a commission offered by an artist, both receive a Correspondence message in their Message Centres. The artist can then review and accept or decline the purchase request.