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I requested a Commission, but the artist still hasn't accepted or rejected it, what can I do?
The artist has up to two weeks to review your request and make a decision. At that point the request will expire and no points will be deducted from your account. You can contact the artist directly via Notes if you would like to inquire further as to the timeframe of your request being reviewed and completion of the requested item.